At this, I wanted to grab their shoulders, give them a little shake, and shout, “Is that all you think my life is? Just waiting? Did you not hear anything else I said?”
But really, their assessment wasn’t a whole lot different from what my own was not too long before this conversation.
Just a couple years earlier, if someone asked me about my relationship status and what I was currently doing with my life, I would have responded with something like, “I want to be married, but I’m not, so in the meantime I’m just…”
In the meantime, I’m just doing these things to kill this time until I meet “the one” and my life can really begin.
In my singleness, I felt not only discontent, but also purposeless. And it’s no wonder; I believed that singleness was less purposeful than marriage. So I was living my singleness as if I was just waiting for “the one.”
Often, marriage and motherhood are painted as the ultimate purpose of Christian womanhood, elevating romance above all other relationships, and degrading singleness to being significant only as prep time for marriage.
But the idea that singleness is less purposeful than marriage, or that marriage is a Christian woman’s ultimate purpose, is not biblical truth.
And when we believe this lie that our purpose is wrapped up in our relationship status, there are other lies the enemy will use to distract us from our true purpose in Christ and steal the time, talents, and opportunities He has given us in this season.
Here are 3 lies I’ve believed about singleness and purpose, and truth about our purpose in Christ that will help us live our single lives purposefully:
The lie: My real purpose will begin once I’m married