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To the Girl Caught Up in Comparison: finding freedom from jealousy & living your life joyfully

2/22/2018

Scrolling social media, seeing snapshots of other’s lives, reading snippets of other’s stories, everything looking so perfect and happy, everyone seeming to have the things I desire but don’t have, and I find myself caught up in comparison.

She has more friends. She has more fun. She has a better figure. She has a better life. She’s better than me. I’m not good enough. I wish I was more like her and had what she had. Then I would be happy. Then I would feel significant.

The comparison trap has sprung, and I am caught. What started out as casual pursuing of social media has turned into an assault on my self-worth and a draining of my joy.

Have you ever found yourself caught up in comparison?

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When You're Feeling Stuck: how to live in beauty, grow in faith, & not give up

2/8/2018

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We are five weeks into 2018.

How are those New Year’s Resolutions holding up in this first month? Maybe you’re still going strong… maybe you’ve already given up.

There’s just something about the start of a new year that makes us want to begin anew; that gives us new resolve to strive for something more, to go for it, to take the next step, to not just dream but to chase those dreams.

But I know, as the newness of the year fades, our strength to strive and go for it and dream can fade as well. The busyness and to-dos of life crowd in and push away the dreams and wear on our resolve.

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To the Girl Whose Dreams Aren't Coming True: how to live with purpose and enjoy the life you have right now

11/2/2017

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Last month was my birthday. My golden birthday. I turned 26 on the 26th.

I remember as a little girl looking forward to that special golden birthday, which in my young mind was so distant, and somehow seemed a bit magical.

Now, it’s come and gone.

My life looks a lot different now than how the daydreams of the little-girl-me had envisioned it.

But there are some dreams that have stuck with me since my little-girl imaginings. Some dreams that I’ve held in my heart for as long as I can remember, waiting and hoping and longing. And I don’t know when those dreams will come true.

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How to Stop the Negative Self-Talk

10/19/2017

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Sometimes, when I’m alone with my thoughts, my thoughts can really beat me up. I’m talking about negative self-talk. The whisperings in my mind that are not encouraging, but leave me feeling yucky and worthless and hopeless.

And the reason they leave me feeling this way is because, at least in the moment, I’m believing them. I’m believing that I’m ugly, that I can’t make a difference, that I don’t belong, that nothing I do is good enough, that no one could really love me for the real me.

Self-talk is really our thoughts about ourselves. It’s what our mind is taking in and putting on replay to whisper to us over and over and over again. It’s the messages of the world that we’re choosing to believe about ourselves, letting them dwell in our minds and define who we are.

That’s why negative self-talk is so destructive. It becomes what we believe about ourselves.

Yet even though it’s so destructive, it can be so hard to stop the negative self-talk.

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To the Girl Who Looks In the Mirror and Doesn't Like What She Sees

10/13/2017

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Standing in front of the mirror, a reflection of myself looking back. Long, light brown hair. Blue eyes. A full figure. A freckle on the end of my nose.

When you look in the mirror, what do you see?

So often, when we look in the mirror, we see flaws. Many flaws. Things about our bodies and looks that we wish were different; thinner, taller, softer, smaller.

Self-criticizing thoughts roll through the mind. And the criticism moves from external to internal, finding flaws not just in how we look, but in who we are.

We’re told to embrace our bodies. We’re told to love ourselves.

But it’s not easy.

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