​Does this story sound familiar?

One day, a woman was scrolling social media and she saw a picture of another woman - a pretty woman, a woman with a lot of friends, a woman on a dream vacation, a woman with a cute boyfriend, a woman announcing she was engaged, a woman whose photo had 239 likes…

As the first woman looked at the picture, she began to compare herself to the woman in the picture.

And as each comparison whispered shame and self-doubt, that ancient green monster stirred in her heart: envy. 

How will the story end? Will the monster consume her, or will she vanquish it?

In my early twenties, I struggled with some deep discontentment that was stealing my joy, causing anxiety, and making me wonder if my life mattered.

The area of my life I was feeling most discontent in was my singleness; I didn’t want to be single anymore, and I was discouraged that my dreams for marriage had yet to come true.

In my mind, being in a relationship would make me feel happy and fulfilled.

If only I had a boyfriend, then I would feel beautiful.
If only I were married, then I would feel happy.
If only I had a husband, then I would feel complete.

Do you ever think If only... thoughts?

​I love learning about our identity in Christ. I love writing about our identity in Christ. I love encouraging women in their identity in Christ.

But I often find in our conversations about our identity in Christ that we like to talk about who we are in Christ - chosen, loved, beautiful daughters of God - but forget the aspect of growing in Christ-likeness.

Yes, we are chosen and dearly loved (Colossians 3:12, one of my favorite verses, tells us this!), but we are also holy and called to live in holiness (Colossians 3:12 also tells us this).

Holiness might seem like an unattainable, guilt-inducing, legalistic standard. But in relationship with Jesus, holiness doesn’t mean perfect performance, never messing up, and checking all good-Christian-boxes.

​Self-esteem, self-confidence, self-worth.

All these words start with the same word: self.

We’d all probably say we want to have self-esteem, to be confident enough to just be ourselves without shame and fear, to believe we are worthy just as we are without having to earn it or prove it.

In fact, one of my goals for this year is to learn to be myself in Christ. To embrace the woman God created me as, with all my strengths, weaknesses, quirks, and qualities.

It’s a big goal, and probably one I’ll be working on for the rest of my life.

Maybe this is hope, a dream, a goal you have for yourself as well.

​Here’s something you may or may not know about me: I LOVE pancakes.

There have been many Saturdays when (after sleeping in), I’ll get up and make myself pancakes.

I have the recipe memorized, and I know the importance of properly measuring out the ingredients.

What would happen if you were doing some baking and one of the ingredients was mislabeled?

Let’s say, the salt was mislabeled as sugar.

If you added as much salt as what was supposed to be sugar, those pancakes, or cookies, or cupcakes, would NOT turn out right.